Dear J, I’m in college, finishing up my freshman year. It’s my first time living away from home. My parents are three hours away, but my mom calls every day and wants to come up all the time. She’s always… Continue Reading
Dear Readers, On Feb. 28, 2009 A News Cafe published a “Dear J” column titled “My Mother’s Memory is Failing.” In that column, I attempted to give the questioner some direction on intervening ( or not ) on her mother’s behalf.… Continue Reading
Dear J, What are the right things to say to friends or relatives who are terminally ill, or to their caretakers? Do you ask about death, or if they’re scared, or peaceful? Do they want to talk about it or… Continue Reading
Dear J, The issue of drinkers versus nondrinkers came up during the holidays. We have many friends and family who don’t drink alcohol. I worry that it’s insensitive for me to drink, or for me to serve alcohol to those… Continue Reading
Dear J, My mother, in her 70s, is losing short-term memory. She’s starting to merge and alter memories of recent events, or forgets them altogether, and repeats herself more often. Otherwise she’s in good heath. Naturally, a medication check and… Continue Reading
Dear J, How does one gently tell one’s boyfriend to stop making that godawful snorting noise before one takes a cast-iron skillet to his skull? A little on edge, perhaps? Hmm, maybe it’s just me, but it sounds like you’re… Continue Reading
Dear J, I’m a dumb-ass. Once again, I’ve double-booked a friend’s event over a quasi-work event. I hate to let either one down. I swear, I have calendars everywhere, and I use them, but there’s a lot going on. What… Continue Reading
Dear J, I’m in a job I love, but I hate my boss, who’s a control-freak tyrant who will never leave his position because he makes a ton of money. I know I should change jobs for my own sanity,… Continue Reading
 Dear J, I’m a recently divorced woman who’s maintained friendships with our dear, lifelong married friends. On two different occasions two of the men/friends made passes at me (unprovoked, unwelcome). It’s as if when I was married to my ex/their friend… Continue Reading
Dear J, I’m a menopausal woman. My sex drive is in the toilet, which means my sex life is practically non-existent, which doesn’t seem fair to my terrific guy, but I’m not into obligatory sex. I want to feel horny… Continue Reading
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