Let It Be

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Do you ever catch yourself trying to make something happen, or agonizing because something isn’t going exactly your way? I do it all the time. This may sound silly, but I’ve made a habit of remembering the Beatles song, “Let it be.”(“Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be… Whisper words of wisdom, let it be.”) It just reminds me to stop holding on so tight, that the only thing I can control is myself, and that there comes a point when I’ve done everything I can do and it’s time to step back to allow the chips to fall where they may. Otherwise I’m just running around like a crazy person trying to force the chips to fall exactly the way I want them to. Not only is that the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard, it’s also the way many of us live our daily lives.

I was going over my business finances recently and found myself having all sorts of feelings about it. The words I kept hearing in my head were, “I should be further along than this.” “I should be making this much money and have a book published” and “I should have a bigger office and a fancier this and a better that, and it should all have happened yesterday.” This all comes from that nearly universal human affliction of feeling like we’re not enough, haven’t done enough, don’t have enough (money, beauty, love, wisdom) and there’s clearly something wrong with us.

Nope, there’s nothing wrong. The only thing wrong is that we’re wasting time and energy on beating the hell out of ourselves, which is costing us even more time and energy, which we could be using to make ourselves happy and/or move ourselves forward. If you want something, prioritize it, create a timeline, find some way to hold yourself accountable, show up for it, and go. But, those draining, self-limiting thoughts rob us from appreciating what we’ve already accomplished, and leave us with less energy to move toward the things that we still want to accomplish. Every time you start beating yourself up and catch yourself trying to force those chips into the right place, just remember, “Let it be.” Chorus please.

Have a beautiful week!

John Kalinowski
John Kalinowski is a Redding native based in New York. He’s an NYU-Certified Life Coach, Mindfulness Expert, Columnist, Speaker, Entrepreneur, Traveler, Art-Lover, and Truth-Teller. You can connect with him on FacebookTwitterGoogle+, or visit his website at johnkalinowski.com.
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6 Responses

  1. Avatar Darcie says:

    John, I read your  article right after viewing THIS in my inbox.  Time to savor the moment!

  2. A. Jacoby A. Jacoby says:

    Thank you John, and ESPECIALLY thank you Darcie, for such an important tho’t for the day . . .uh . . . no, for the life! Being a music teacher I simply HAD to post that to my timeline!

  3. Avatar A Brady says:

    These days many say– who are the Beatles?  But if you said: Let it go!  Most all would know– Frozen!

  4. Avatar K. Beck says:

    It’s the “American (USA) Way!” Hard to break that bad habit!

  5. Avatar Joanne Lobeski-Snyder says:

    Great article and great post by Darcie.  The voice in my head dragged me out of a job I loved (minimum wage) and propelled me into taking courses to complete a credential that offered a good chance at a living wage and a secure retirement for the day that I couldn’t work anymore or couldn’t find a job because of my age.  Listen to the voice that is offering good advice for your future and ignore the voice that has expectations for you from a different place and a different economic world.  Enjoy life at every step of your adventure.  Again, thank you for  this wonderful article.