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Free Therapy # 30: Relax, Nothing is Under Control

In all my years as a practicing psychologist, I have learned repeatedly that one of the strongest motivations driving human behavior is our need for control. When I work with clients, one of the many measures I am mentally assessing… Continue Reading

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Free Therapy #29: Mind your Moksha

We all seek control. Even my cat. Lately, she has been waking me up earlier than I want in the hopes that I will put our two German shepherds outside so she can have the whole house to herself. In… Continue Reading

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Free Therapy #28: Languages of Love and Blame

It is tough being a human and one of the hardest tasks we face is making our relationships work.  From the moment we are born, we try to figure out how to relate to others.  It is the reason most… Continue Reading

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Free Therapy #27: Couples in Pain

There is no sadder song than a failed marriage. When a marital union falls apart, it is like a large glass chandelier crashing to the floor, sending shards of glass in all directions. Everyone gets cut: children, parents, siblings and… Continue Reading

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Free Therapy #26: Our Purpose

“Reality changes because we change in our perceptions and experiences of it. To try and stop that flow is to deny our very life force, our humanity. It is to try to force limitless truth into a particular container of… Continue Reading

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Free Therapy #25: The Price You Pay for Love

Did you ever think that it would be like this? The price you pay for love. Did you ever think that it would feel like this? The price you pay for love. The price you pay, willingly. The price you… Continue Reading

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Free Therapy #24: Advice for Becoming a Therapist

As I type this I have just returned from a sacred ritual that only some lucky parents get to enjoy: the annual return to college, a pilgrimage of semi-epic proportions where we journey to the far reaches of this long,… Continue Reading

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Free Therapy #23: Tinnitus is Music, Part 3

As I shared in my last two columns, I used to suffer with tinnitus but not any longer. I still have it. Like I have baldness and other symptoms of being 57 years old. It is present like the clouds… Continue Reading