The Magic of Abundance

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When did “wanting” become a dirty word? When did we lose the capacity to see value in anticipation? And why does “wanting” usually feel synonymous with “lacking”?

There is nothing wrong with wanting in the absence of having. Trust that I’m speaking to myself here, too. The things we want do not have to become a source of pain simply because we can’t have them in the time frame that we want them.

One area of wanting that I hear about all the time is in the romance department. People can feel very lonely and stressed about not having a partner or mate. Of course, people can feel similarly about all sorts of things they feel they need to have in order to be happy and whole. This type of wanting is built on lack.

  • Wanting from lack means that you, on some level, believe that you are insufficient without that thing. It means that you feel yourself to be “not enough” if you don’t have that relationship, that house, that car, that job, that external validation of your worth.
  • Wanting from abundance means that you know — with or without that relationship, house, car, or job — you are still going to be OK; great, actually. It means that you believe you are enough, and that “enoughness” is not measured by external validation trophies.

True happiness is internal. It is a practice of reminding yourself that you are enough. Though there are plenty of external “things” that can make you feel amazing, that state of bliss is fragile because you have so little control over the temporary nature of the external world.

As you practice being enough, you are able to channel pure, loving abundant energy into achieving what you want. Brick by brick you can build your vision from a grounded place of strength, happiness and trust. The energy we invest is the energy we tend to see returned.

Lack begets lack and abundance begets abundance.

John Kalinowski
John Kalinowski is a Redding native based in New York. He’s an NYU-Certified Life Coach, Mindfulness Expert, Columnist, Speaker, Entrepreneur, Traveler, Art-Lover, and Truth-Teller. You can connect with him on FacebookTwitterGoogle+, or visit his website at
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8 Responses

  1. Avatar Beverly Stafford says:

    Your articles are always interesting and informative. Thank you.

  2. Avatar Johanna Anderson says:

    Great article and very timely (for me, personally, anyway)! The word “enough” has become my mantra lately, and I’m re-charging it as the holidays approach. I HAVE enough (stuff, money, resources, time), and I AM enough. It feels really good to arrive at this place of enough-ness, and has brought peace to some corners of my life — some corners, but not all, but maybe that’s enough.

  3. Avatar Richard Goates says:

    Great Article! Happiness is an Inside Job, As is Love, Joy….well I won’t go’ on. We have been conditioned in Society to think that everything we want is “Out there”, the new car, the new and bigger home, more money, it’s all out there and our job is to find a way to Get It to “be Happy”!

    ( Insert Buzzer sound here) -Wrong!

    The Ironic part is it’s all “Inside” waiting to be released! But it takes Faith, it takes Work, It takes time to do ones Spiritual Pushups/Prayer work etc.

    You see it all the time, oh she completes me, oh this is IT, no really I have found “The One”. Fast forward a year later, ummm well ummm, it didn’t work out….again! Two Halves feel great for a while but in the end, only Two Whole Complete Individuals stand the test of time, and even then its a challenge!

    One has to be happy with what they have giving thanks and coming from Gratitude to receive more. It’s an Inside Job and not many are willing to do the work to get what they desire. Abundance is all around, it’s never left, Love is all around, It always has been. The Question is will one go within to tap into that?

    You can not give that which you have not! Want Love? You have to love yourself, want more abundance? What are you giving? Want Joy and Happiness? What steps have you taken to find it within and do the things that help you feel that?

    As the Lady who asked the Wise Man said,- When will I find the “Perfect Man” ?, ahh he said, when you are Perfect!

    • John Kalinowski John Kalinowski says:

      So well said! Agreed on all points. It IS work! But, isn’t the payoff so sweet? Thanks Richard.

  4. Joanne Snyder Joanne Snyder says:

    Great article John. Thank you.