Standing in Your Truth

Editor's note: If you appreciate being able to read posts like this, and want to ensure ANC's ability to continue publishing similar content, please click here to demonstrate your support and become a paid subscriber for as little as $1.35 a month.

For many people, it is easier to say how you truly feel when your thoughts and feelings are positive. Saying “I love you” or “I had a great time, thank you” flows out of your mouth with ease. The ability to be straight forward and honest can be challenging when your opinion is controversial or negative. Telling someone you are angry, hurt or disappointed might be something you tremendously avoid. If you are like many people, you walk away thinking about what you “should” have said or “wished” you had said. Some can stand up for those they love, such as their children, but seldom for themselves.

There are skills involved in “standing in your truth” and the good news is that you can learn them at any age. It is never too late to begin honoring yourself and those around you with your honesty. This does not mean you have to become aggressive, selfish or bossy. It is possible to be direct and honest without being disliked by others.

Take the time to listen to this podcast that will give you the understanding about what is involved with learning to “stand in your truth” in a communicative and assertive manner. Now is the time to begin standing up for yourself.

Dr. Patty
Patricia Leigh Bay, Psy.D. is a licensed Marriage, Family Therapist with a private practice in Redding, California. Since 1979 she has loved working with children, adolescents, adults, families and relationships.
Comment Policy: We welcome your comments, with some caveats: Please keep your comments positive and civilized. If your comment is critical, please make it constructive. If your comment is rude, we will delete it. If you are constantly negative or a general pest, troll, or hater, we will ban you from the site forever. The definition of terms is left solely up to us. Comments are disabled on articles older than 90 days. Thank you. Carry on.

4 Responses

  1. Adrienne Jacoby Adrienne Jacoby says:

    For those of us who would cross oceans rather than have a confrontational exchange, the lessons of standing in one’s truth are hard learned . . . . good thing you stated that it was never too late. Hmmmm, maybe next year . . . .

  2. Thank you, Patty, for this. I love that I can listen to your podcast while I’m cooking or cleaning.

    On this topic, because if I’m not careful, I tend to fall into the passive/people please category, it’s taken me a long time to learn to say, “Let me think about it,” or “Let me get back to you,” or, if it’s about an invitation, “Let me check my calendar” so that when I do give my response, it’s honest and true to myself.

    Interesting stuff. We’ll be better communicators because of you.

  3. Avatar sue says:

    Thank you Dr. Patty.

  4. Joanne Snyder Joanne Snyder says:

    Dr. Patty, I listened to the first part of your podcast and will come back to finish it. Honestly is important and it’s important to know how to be honest in tricky situations. I’m so glad you shared this with us. Thank you