Health & Wellness from the Inside Out: Love is the Best Medicine

Humans have one important need from the day we burst forth onto this planet. This need is love. Love must flow from our heart to another’s freely, and from another’s to ours in order for us to live abundant, health-filled lives.

Unfortunately, most of us have a story, a story of hate that seeped in at a time in our youth. For some of us it was a peer who taught us about hate, for some it was a boyfriend or girlfriend, and the most despairing of all, sometimes this hate is taught by a mother or a father. When we block love out of hurt or fear, dis-ease results.

Our emotional freedom or our ability to receive and give love has the greatest effect on our human potential, in my opinion. The simple experiment that most of us learned about in Psychology 101 is that of two groups of monkeys. One group is left with a surrogate mother with a terry cloth in which they could snuggle up, and the other surrogate, made of wire. The scientist found repeatedly that monkeys would thrive if they were able to experience touch and feel nurtured during times of fight or flight.

When we are nurtured and loved we feel our best. We find this when we allow ourselves the pleasure of spending time with someone of importance in our lives. We leave their presence feeling like we can accomplish anything. Feeling love makes our cells radiant, experiencing hate destroys our health.

Too often, people visit a doctor for an ailment, maybe it is a migraine headache, or an irritable bowel. The doctor quickly prescribes a medication for these symptoms, but has anyone been asked by their physician, “What is going on in your life that may have triggered this symptom? Is there a violation of love?”

I have helped many clients and students over the years with a litany of dis-eases, and when I probe deeper into their lifestyle, habits and attitudes, I find that there is often an emotional upset driving the pain or discomfort.

Take the example of the headache. We so often pop a quick pain reliever to subdue a headache, but we know the tension is because of the to-do list that is piling up, or the broken relationship we feel will never heal, or the restless hours of night where we cannot sleep. This is similar with many dis-eases. Many feel stress in their heart when they need to forgive. I have found that stress and anger held in the belly will often instigate heartburn or bowel discomforts.

When a discomfort arises and then seems to linger, and you visit your doc time and again for the latest in medicine, I would ask you to look a bit deeper. Take some time to linger with your heart. Be still, as I have mentioned before, and listen. Where does your emotional heart ache? Where is the fear living? Release it and take steps to cleanse your life of emotional residue.

The more you listen to your own intuition in the matters of the heart, the more strength you can find to step out of toxic relationships, and step into healing ones, perhaps with yourself.

Some of us need to learn how to love and some of us just have to remember what love felt like before the buffeting of life began to take place.

I linger often, looking at my children, and think; I can learn so much from them. They laugh, play, smile, cry, eat and sleep with the rhythms of life. They love with a vulnerability that most adults have numbed.

We all should strive to be more like innocent children; open-hearted in giving and receiving love.

Tamara Joy Patterson was raised in Northern California and lives in Palo Cedro with her husband and their two children. She is a graduate of CSU, Chico, and Clayton College of Natural Health with degrees in Kinesiology, Exercise Physiology, and Natural Health, and is a certified mind-body expert and ACSM certified exercise specialist. Tamara has been in the health-and-wellness field professionally for more than 12 years as a wellness expert, college health instructor and yoga teacher. To learn more about Tamara Joy you can visit her website at: www.tamarashealinggarden.com

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Tamara Joy Patterson was raised in Northern California and lives in Palo Cedro with her husband and their two children. She is a graduate of CSU, Chico, and Clayton College of Natural Health with degrees in Kinesiology, Exercise Physiology, and Natural Health, and is a certified mind-body expert and ACSM certified exercise specialist. Tamara has been in the health-and-wellness field professionally for more than 12 years as a wellness expert, college health instructor and yoga teacher. To learn more about Tamara Joy you can visit her website at: www.tamarashealinggarden.com
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  1. Avatar Canda says:

    Great advice, Tamara. I've known people who hang on to old resentments so tight, they become physically ill, and often with multiple "diseases" or symptoms. But unfortunately there are many loving and positive people also suffering with pain and incurable diseases. I've been missing your articles, and enjoyed this one. Thanks for the reminders!

  2. What a beautiful article! Having had my heart "broken" a few times in my life, it is amazing to me how much capacity we have for healing, opening up our hearts for more love, even though there are scars. I suppose, as with the physical body, these emotional scars are what help mold our character.

    Speaking of monkeys and fight or flight…we have a two-year-old very independent and active cat named Mia. Mia's not a snuggler in general, although she does need her loving from time to time, but only from me. One day, my son was sitting in our family room, and the cat leaped through her window from outside, and ran straight to his lap, as if to say, "save me!" Sure enough, there was another cat outside that must have been hassling her. My son petted her and calmed her, even though she had never been on his lap before! That just melts my heart. One, that the cat knew she would be safe with our son and two, that he knew what do do.

  3. Avatar Budd Hodges says:

    Tamara…What a Joy to read your words. Love is what we need, sang John Lennon with help from Paul McCartney.

    As the hippies of the 60's advocated to all who would listen, love not war. Your fate is in your hands, just do it.

  4. Avatar Amy Lee says:

    Thank you for this great article.

    I've lived with chronic abdominal pain since 5 months post-encephalitis. So far, the medical community has yet to tell me how I came toget it and what I can do to "fix" it.

    However, one of my favorite physicians, a gastro-interologist, told me about a study that showed it's love that is actually the best medicine. He cited some research that indicates neither prayer (for the sick person) nor placebos are as good at healing as is LOVE!

    My husband has been with me since the evening I was struck down with E a little over 2 years ago. If it weren't for him, I don't know what I'd do. He is the kindest and most compassionate human I've ever known.

    Yes, love is, by far, the very best medicine!

  5. It's so refreshing to read an article like this! Thanks for writing it. I'm going to share it on my health coaching Facebook page.