Teaching…. and reinforcing…. again and again…. a few polite behaviors not only insures your children will be desired company for their friends, but gives them great confidence in meeting new social situations with confidence.
The 10 by 10 list is very basic and easy to remember…only 10 behaviors to keep up with in your busy life. You’ll add other manners as they grow, but if these 10 are practiced and embedded life will be sweeter!
1. Please: Use please when asking for something, or asking someone to pass an item at the dinner table.
2. Thank You: Use thank you when receiving something…a gift, an invitation or a compliment. Be sure to thank your friend and your friend’s parents when you leave a party or after a sleep-over.
3. Excuse Me: When you bump into, or step on someone’s foot, when you walk between two people having a conversation or when you have to interrupt adults who are talking.
4. Ask Permission: To do something, or to use someone else’s property.
5. Hello and Nice to meet you: When introduced to someone say hello and respond if they ask how you are. It’s always polite to ask how they are also.
6. Ask if you can help: Practice asking if you can help at home; set the table, take out the trash or help carry in groceries. When you are visiting a friend, it’s always nice to lend a helping hand.
7. Eat and chew properly: Use your fork, knife and spoon correctly. Put your napkin in your lap. Elbows off the table. Chew with your mouth closed and don’t try to talk while you have food in your mouth.
8. Watch your words: Be kind. Don’t make fun of or tease others and don’t make comments about how a person looks. If you have a question, ask your parent privately. Compliment others.
9. Knock on closed doors: If a door is closed, knock first and wait to be invited in. Don’t open the door and walk in.
10. Give your seat to an older adult: If there are no seats left and you are on a couch or chair or on the bus or at a party and an older adult comes into the room, offer your chair to the adult. You might also go find a chair and bring it for the older adult.
Print the *10 By 10 * list here as a reminder!
Photos of Kathryn’s adorable grandchildren by Kathryn Barker.