See the Woman Run; See the Weight Disappear

I was lacing up my running shoes when my husband, Craig, called from the other room: “It’s starting to rain.”

I heard myself answer: “It’s only water!”

What? Who said that? The woman who used to cancel a scheduled walk because of a slight breeze? The woman who didn’t jog in wet weather because dangerous conditions might result in a slip, a fall and a broken hip? That woman is happily heading out for a run in the RAIN?

Apparently, this 55-year-old dog has learned a new trick – but it absolutely didn’t happen over night.

Creativity guru Hugh MacLeod wrote: “Nobody suddenly discovers anything. Things are made slowly and in pain.”

I embrace that idea with my creative projects; songwriting is tedious and painstaking. Conquering crippling stage fright? Same. Devotion to a fitness routine also comes “slowly and in pain.”

Doni’s fitness challenge came at a perfect time for me, because I was tired of feeling fat and frumpy and not fitting into my clothes. I was fed up with the lethargic and lazy me and not at all ready to feel so gosh darn OLD.

I lost 20 pounds a few years ago – painstakingly counting calories and jogging a couple miles a day – but a few trips to Germany, where the food is amazing, and an empty nest, where Craig and I could enjoy gourmet ice cream ALL to ourselves – resulted in a closet full of clothes that no longer fit.

I had also ditched jogging in favor of leisurely walks through my neighborhood. But after I said “yes” to Doni’s invitation, I upped the speed of my walks and added a few short jogging intervals.

The gift of a Fitbit fitness tracker at Christmas opened my eyes to the fact that my walking-with-a-little-jogging-thrown-in wasn’t cutting it. It wasn’t raising my heart rate or burning many calories. I was going to have to pick up the pace if I wanted results, so I added a few intervals of speed, then spaced the intervals a little closer together, until eventually, I hit fives miles, running the whole time.

Erin Friedman running

I don’t run fast, but I run faster than I used to – and my love for it came gradually, step by step, day by day. During the first few weeks I FORCED myself to run and I could easily to talk myself out of it for any reason: “It’s too cold.” “It’s too hot.” I was the Goldilocks of exercise excuses.

But eventually, I came to appreciate and rely on the benefits that come from a daily run. I look forward to getting outside and moving, enjoying the fresh morning air, because at the end of every run is a sublime sense of well-being. For me, running is the perfect prescription for anxiety, insomnia, depression, writer’s block and general crabbiness.

The headache I woke up with? It’s gone by mile two. Those middle-of-the-night worries? They aren’t nearly as heavy a burden after five miles. When I finish my run, I’m ready and raring to head to my studio to work on music. I’m optimistic, energized and clear-headed.

Productivity in my studio has increased dramatically – I’m doing more songwriting than ever and I’m happier with what I am producing. It’s as though the momentum and forward motion of my morning run carries through to the rest of the day.

I recently added trail running to my repertoire and it’s a brand new challenge – I have to walk some of the hills. I slow down and I’m mindful in the rocky spots to avoid falling and breaking a hip where cell reception is lacking. But I love the solitude, the scenery and feeling the earth flying under my feet and being surprised and delighted by whatever lies around the next bend and over the next hill.

An inviting manzanita grove at Whiskeytown.

An inviting manzanita grove at Whiskeytown.

We are so lucky to live in this area with its vast outdoor beauty and miles and miles of trails to explore and enjoy. The Visit Redding website has a detailed map of local trails – I’m using it to plan my excursions:

From the Sacramento River Trail, this only-in-Redding view of bridges framing Lassen Peak.

From the Sacramento River Trail, this only-in-Redding view of bridges framing Lassen Peak.

I’ve managed a 13-mile run on the Sacramento River Trail and the other day I had the Davis Gulch Trail at Whiskeytown ALL to myself for the entire 6.6 miles – it was heavenly. After these runs, my legs remind me how powerful they are and how hard they have worked – it’s a rewarding fatigue.

The view from Davis Gulch Trail at Whiskeytown Lake.

The view from Davis Gulch Trail at Whiskeytown Lake.

Years ago I was writing a song about a girl hiking on a lakeside trail who meets herself as an old, gray-haired woman. The old woman had some sage advice about patience and persistence for her younger self. I hadn’t thought of the song in years – until the other day when I was running a trail by the lake. Here I am, I thought, a somewhat wiser and grayer older woman — finding myself out here on the trail – one step at a time.

The Sundial Bridge - the most architecturally inviting finish line in the history of trail runs.

The Sundial Bridge – the most architecturally inviting finish line in the history of trail runs.

Running started as a chore — a way to take the weight off, and I’ve dropped about fifteen pounds and feel wonderful about it. But, step by step and day by day, my running evolved into something much grander. Patience and persistence have paid off in a fitness routine that contributes mightily to my emotional and physical well-being. Running is a gift I give myself.

Erin Friedman
By day, Erin Friedman partners with her husband Craig at Wrap N Pack (where Shipping’s a Snap) and by night the two of them annoy their Cottonwood neighbors as the musical duo, Still Married. After homeschooling three children using a Curriculum of Joy, Erin now schools herself the same way, with concentrations in fiddle, voice, literature and grand-parenting. She’s won awards for songwriting and baking but has never won a running race, although she is certain her chances would improve greatly if a sizzling slice of New York pizza were waiting at the finish line.
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20 Responses

  1. Avatar Nora Delaney says:

    This is a really inspiring story. I love the way this written too.  Made me feel like getting out and running down the street!

  2. Avatar Diana Wallis says:


    You have always been a muse to me and now a fitness inspiration.  This is a great story.  Thanks for sharing.  Love you!


  3. Avatar Carrie says:

    Yes, Erin, I loved your story! Between you and Doni, I’ll get myself moving!

  4. A. Jacoby A. Jacoby says:

    “The Goldilocks of exercise!!” Boy, that says it all!! There is ALWAYS an excuse ready, willing, and available to be trotted out with little or no provocation.  Good for you (and those of us who are making the endeavor) for recognizing that physical health has to be the primary goal and if there is some weight loss, it’s a bonus! BTW . .. that is one gorgeous picture of the Sundial!


    • Yay for you, Adrienne! Yes – It’s got to be about more than weight loss. And I can’t ever get enough of our beautiful bridge – inspires me every time I see it.

  5. Avatar Stacy says:

    You are awesome!

  6. Avatar EasternCounty says:

    You, Doni, and Adrienne are inspirations to all of us fans.  Keep on truckin’ I tell myself.

  7. Avatar Jorgib says:

    What an inspiring story. Physically fit seems to be a sideline to your view of nature and the joy in running.

  8. Avatar Jessica french says:

    Very inspirational!!

  9. Finally! I’ve been offline all day, and am just checking in. Erin, I love your story, I love your enthusiasm, and I love your writing.

    Thank you so much for taking the time to share your running journey with us. (And such great photos, too!) And, like Adrienne, I love your Goldilocks line. I can relate, for sure.

    You inspire me!

  10. Avatar Pamela says:

    Wow! I’m super impressed and inspired (I’m also pretty sure I’ve never run even a mile in my entire life~ probably not even cumulatively!) You Go Girl!

  11. Erin, terrific story…and love your writing…inspirational and fun!! Congrats on continuing with your goal even when you felt like giving in to your tried and true excuses!!

    I’m sure you’d win a GrandParenting award!!

  12. Avatar Joanne Lobeski-Snyder says:

    Beautifully written article Erin.  I am so inspired by what you shared.  You are absolutely right; exercise strengthens the body And the brain and the spirit!  Thank you.

  13. Avatar Rebecca Summers says:

    Thank you for your article, Erin. I really enjoyed your writing about the joy you are experiencing with your increasing commitments to your health and your songwriting. I desperately need to get out and start taking daily walks. My right hip was long completely lacking in any cartilage, and I endured many years of pain. The entire year before my total hip replacement, I was basically bed ridden. I had the surgery ten months ago and I do my orthopedic exercises at home, but I am supposed to go walking. Unfortunately, I have an anxiety/panic disorder which keeps me locked up inside my room. So, I am still basically bed ridden. I know that, like you and the rain, at a certain point, after “just  doing” it, saying no will not be an option. I have experienced it in the past. Thirty one years ago, I started walking a little bit every day after a major abdominal surgery. Soon I was unsatisfied and I needed to expand my excursions to greater distances. I started walking the 4 miles home from work and soon I was not even satisfied with that. Bit by bit I added more blocks into my route until I found myself walking a curcuit of nine miles. It was exhilarating. I lost  50 pounds and felt reconnected to the world. My anxiety, panic and depression was much less. And  coincidentally, I found my songwriting was once again making demands of my time and attention.

    So, thank you, again, for the inspiration.  My legs are weak, so I will start out with baby steps…walking around my neighborhood and then working up to going out to the river trail, which I did on April 31st. It was glorious!.

    • Good for you, Rebecca!  If you’ve done it before, you can do it again – be patient and kind to yourself and take heart in EVERY single step you take forward. Here’s to many more glorious days! Take care.