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Sex Sells. We are sexual beings and we love all things sexy. That is why the pornography industry has larger revenues than Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo, Apple and Netflix combined, yet it has not captured the devotion of 50 percent of the population, and the primary decision makers about family spending: women. The pornography industry has made a huge mistake. They have left the needs of women out of their productions. It’s very easy to access as much graphic porn as you desire, but are women satisfied by what they are able to find? I don’t believe we are.
According to compiled numbers from respected news and research organizations, every second, $3,075.64 is being spent on pornography. Every second, 28,258 Internet users are viewing pornography. In that same second, 372 Internet users are typing adult search terms into search engines. Every 39 minutes, a new pornographic video is being created in the U.S. Who is surfing the porn wave? Men make up 96 percent of those searching the word “porn,” while women search words like “adult dating,” “adult sex,” and “cyber sex.”
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(More statistics here. Note: The most recent statistics I could find are from 2006. This industry is growing so rapidly it makes the data collection daunting.)
Women are searching for something. Don’t let us fool you. We account for one in three visitors to porn sites.
So what are we looking for? Women want something different from men. The women I speak with are frustrated by the lack of intrigue, story, and creativity. Women want more; I believe what we crave is more along the lines of erotica. When I raise the topic, many people (especially men) do not differentiate between erotica and porn. I’m here to tell you they are not the same. However, I will agree that occasionally something can fit into either category, which, in my opinion, makes it more erotica than porn.
But porn is pretty easy to detect. It’s graphic, in your face, blunt, has bad music, no real story or intrigue, and most of the time has some really fake orgasms. Plus, you are never exactly sure if the actors are enjoying what is happening or drugged into submission. Now it might sound like I’m anti-porn. I’m not. There is a time and place for it. But as a woman, and one who has no trouble talking to other women about sexual issues, I can speak for many: We want more than what porn offers a majority of the time.
Women are visual and auditory creatures. At minimum, we want the voice to match the expressions. Women desire the mental stimulation and erotic story leading up to the sexual event. We want to connect to what is going on in our mind and body. Erotica most often leaves something to the imagination. Think “9½ Weeks,” “Eyes Wide Shut” type movies. They get your pulse going and your mind wanting to know and see more. It’s OK to leave us wanting to see more. Partners? You can pick up where the art leaves off.
Erotica moves us, creates a reaction and leaves a lasting impression. We will think about it long after it’s over. We will remember it as though we experienced it; that is because it created an experience within. Erotic art makes you stare, explore and fantasize. It makes you move your head trying to peer around the corners to see what is not shown. Pornographic art puts everything right out there for you to see so there is no need to peer or wonder. Again, both have their place and effect, but they are vastly different effects.
My admonition to the film and art makers is to get into the minds of women, the primary people spending the cash these days, and see what turns us on and brings us back. If you can stimulate our minds, touch our hearts and stir our bodies, you will have loyal fans. When we are moved, we will share. At our next girls night out, sewing circle, or board room meeting, we will share with other women what we have discovered. Word of mouth is still the most powerful of all advertising.
We all desire living our sexiest, most vibrant life. So when you touch upon things that get your juices flowing, the sex goddess within will awaken and you will be energized by her. Embrace her. Tease her. Celebrate her. Whether it be through porn, erotica, music, etc., find what turns you on to life and turn up the volume! Life is short. Keep it fun! This, my sexy friends, is what living our designer lives is all about!
Intimately Yours,
Nancy
Nancy Sutton Pierce RN, Health Educator is the Founding director of Nancy Sutton’s House of Yoga and Radio Talk Show Host on The Conscious Living Show LIVE every Saturday 11a-12noon on KCNR 1460am You can reach Nancy at asyoudesire@ymail.com with your comment or questions.
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