Social Networking 101: Getting Facebook


Facebook?  Facebook!  Facebook …  I’m a Baby Boomer reviewing this astounding social media networking site boasting 400 million members and growing daily. Do you realize the membership of Facebook exceeds the current population of the U.S. by over 30 percent?  Our population was reportedly 307 million last year.  Mark Zuckerberg and his pals founded Facebook in 2004 in Cambridge, MA as a means of communicating while still in college. But I doubt they had a CLUE about the revolution that would ensue.

So why in the world am I, a Baby Boomer, writing about this?  Shock of all shocks, I’ve got a personal page on Facebook and a business page on Facebook.  I’ve realized that it’s fun personally and a growing number of businesses are finding it fruitful to have a presence on the site.  It is not a kid’s game.  Advertisers use it because people spend 500 billion minutes on the site per month!!  Here are some Facebook statistics that are numbing.

Because I have grown my relocation business Moving Links 4 You via my online presence, I was recently asked to help a couple local non-profit organizations get started.  I thought it would be a wonderful exercise to spend some time helping them while re-examining the various sites I use to improve my own presence.

Social media networking is SO BIG these days with more to learn all the time as it continues to morph.  Remember when Yahoo was the big search engine?  That was just a few years ago.  Now it’s Google, but there’s nothing to say how long that will be the case.

For that very reason, I’m enrolled in the current Social Media Summit 2010 offered online each Spring. I’m learning a ton and additionally connecting with some “Big Dogs” such as Michael Stelzer from Social Media Examiner and Guy Kawasaki of Alltop fame.  I know they will be ongoing resources for me to help me stay in the know. Pretty cool.  Mark your calendar for May, 2011, for the next summit if you’re at all interested in keeping up to speed with social media.  I’ve got a ton of material to help me over the coming months. 
I remember when it started for me.  My friend, Maria, suggested I check out LinkedIn the summer of 2007.  It was all Greek to me but, for whatever reason, I scoped it out.  That was the beginning of a pretty interesting venture on a few levels.  It started slowly but started to pick up speed about 6 months later.

I have social media to thank for me launching my national relocation services.  It expanded my horizons, opening up new opportunities.  Social online media is a match for me with my enjoyment of connecting with folks from across the U.S. and world.  It feels natural for me to be here. While in grade school, I had a pen pal from New Mexico, which was very special then.  Now I have lots of pen pals from many states and countries, no stamps required.  Is that cool or what?  Maybe not to the post office but to me it is quite clever!

You don’t have to go far to get into a conversation with anyone about Facebook.  Ask your kids or grandkids.  It’s a way to keep up with them.  I have a Blackberry so have Facebook downloaded on it and can respond to messages from my phone – great for family communication if you so choose.

Because we are allowed to upload endless pictures, it’s been a great way for me personally to keep up with a world traveling son, Will Lascelles, recently in Kashmir, India, working on a ski and cultural movie with Anthony Bonello called B4Apres. That was even enough to get my husband off the dime to join, just so he could view Will’s pictures directly rather than through me.  Mind you, it’s not something he’s interested in.  He’s limited his connections so far to three (yes, I’m one of them!) while mine are inching toward 600.  While so many are finding FB to be a good fit for different reasons, there are always those who just can’t be bothered.  Of course, there were always those who couldn’t be bothered with the flashing 12:00 on their VCR machine, either!  Flash!  Flash!  Flash!  (Strange.  I was one of them!  It just goes to show you Facebook might be worth checking out.)

I could go on for DAYS about FB but there’s no sense me doing that since so much has been written already.  I suggest you check out this Facebook Guide to help you determine if there is a good reason to register at  If you are taking the time to read to this point, you’ll have to admit you’re just slightly curious, if not greatly curious.  Anyone from 13 years old on up with a valid email address can register.  Don’t you want to know what your family is up to?  Facebook will help you keep up with the world your kids and grandkids are mixing in.

Don’t tell me you are too old.  I suggest strongly that you are not.  I have a friend named Lee, retired from engineering and traveling all over the world, who is my eldest connection.  He will be 92 this year and is as sharp as a tack.  I love it when he adds a comment on my page to a discussion I’ve started and makes me think about something from a different perspective.  Then I’ll run into him at the Cedar Tree, where we occasionally find each other out to breakfast and we have a good ol’ chuckle about something on Facebook.

One reason the Baby Boomer population is growing on Facebook is it has become a fairly easy way of getting back in touch with old friends.  My class reunion (you don’t seriously want to know which one, do you?) is this summer back in Willmar, Minnesota.  It has been an amazing thing reconnecting with classmates on Facebook this year who I had been out of touch with since graduation.  (I can honestly report that not one of us has changed in appearance based on the photos everyone has uploaded on Facebook! LOL.)

I have connected with some fabulous women from my class who have had me howling with laughter while we clear the cobwebs from our brains.  What one doesn’t remember, another does.  Not only that, we are older and more mature (I think) and our perspectives are an absolute riot on things that happened so long ago.  Stephanie, Randee, Candy, Lana, Mos’, Susan, Carol, Candy et al – I have so enjoyed our chats.

Through these classmates I was able to reconnect with a fellow named Steve who didn’t register at all with me initially.  I knew we’d graduated together but my class was 344 students and I didn’t know everyone really well so I just put it down to that.  He jumped into a conversation some of us were having and then said, “Lehm, you haven’t lost your dry sense of humor!”  I thought, “Who IS this guy?”  He knew my nickname.  He revealed to me in that comment that my dry sense of humor was present even in high school.  It’s hard for me to really remember how I was – and how I remember myself is likely a far cry from how others remember me. I studied his picture and thought hard for 5 minutes.  THEN, he came into full view.  He was sitting behind me (big as life) in band playing his trumpet.  All of a sudden I could hear him saying something quite clever under his breath to Vic, our band director.  Steve was quite dry witted himself.  Vic was, too. Heck, all of Willmar was probably dry witted!  That’s just the way it was.  I remembered one of Vic’s comments that has stuck with me to this day and is so true about life, “Well, if you play all the notes, you’re bound to hit the right one eventually!”  In that one moment alone Facebook showed me tremendous value by flooding my brain with great memories that had been deeply buried during adulthood while raising a family and working for decades, thousands of miles away from Willmar.

Most Baby Boomers have been working their little behinds off for years and years both professionally and raising families.  Many are now entering the grandparent phase.  (Not here – our boys are off adventuring the world!!)  I view Facebook, more than any other site I’m familiar with, as a link to my past, present and future.

Knowing I was going to eventually be writing this for A News Café dot com, I asked a question on LinkedIn about Facebook to get feedback from others about their perspective on Facebook.  I hope all of you can click through to the Sunday Question for 25 April 10 on LinkedIn to see what those suggestions are.  If you can’t see it, then just sign up for LinkedIn!  It’ll be worth it.

In one of the links I’ve provided, it may tell you how to get a username. As when you set up your profile, it will give you a hard-to-remember ID number, which provides an impossible URL.  You can go to and get your personalized URL set up.  My personal page is and my business page is Another business page I’d love you to check out is:, which is Redding’s film festival and I hope you’ll help spread the word!  The username ID makes it so much easier to find people and business pages.

I look forward to helping the non-profit entities locally and also any of you who might have questions or be skeptical in getting started.  I can also help you get started on setting up a Facebook business page.  I’m learning new things all the time.  It’s good to have a mentor along the way.  I’ve got so many great friends made who I can rely on to help me get answers so consider me a resource in that way.

When you join, you will immediately have friends wanting to connect – some you know and some you don’t.  Go slowly but have fun.  It’s o.k. if you only have 3 connections.  It’s o.k., too, to have hundreds.

You’re invited – no, you’re ENCOURAGED – to leave a response here about your Facebook experience or questions you have.  Feel free to contact me at or 530.515.6299.

Mary Lascelles (aka ReloMary) is with Moving Links 4 You Concierge Relocation Services – Assembling your Selling, Buying, Moving Team. You may reach her by calling 530.515.6299.

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25 Responses

  1. Avatar pam says:

    Great article Mary! Also, your invitation when you did your last piece here, to call you for help, suggestions etc…and you are so willing to share your knowledge and experience with this social media boom.

    I have noticed my attention span is shorter and more persnickety now, so Facebook is a fun place to play. it is totally up to me how much time I spend at each viewing….

    With new information I am interested in, I digest it in segments, not all at one gulp. I will be sure to read your article several times!

    Thanks for the inspiration and information


  2. Avatar Walter says:

    Thanks for sharing the link to the Facebook Guide, it's just the site I was looking for to bring me up to speed on privacy changes.

  3. Avatar Earl Allen Boek says:

    thanks appreciate the article…Face Book played a big part in this last election. As
    did your site and some of the other local sites.

  4. Avatar sumair says:


  5. Avatar shamala says:

    Thanks for sharing the link to the Facebook Guide

  6. Avatar saifali says:

    hello every 1

  7. Avatar thuyanaingzaw says:

  8. Avatar Steve says:

    Brilliant Mary…….nicely done. R U planning for the Reunion??

    Still big as life,



  9. Avatar ReloMary says:

    Bigger than life, Steve…still working on reunion details. What do you think? Should I make the trek?

  10. Avatar Adrienne jacoby says:

    This mid-seventies PRE-baby boomer got into FB when my daughter's photographer posted her wedding pics there. Now i follow her as she tours the world. Fans are great to post pics from various venues. What a kick!!!!

    i've also reconnected with a myriad of students from my teaching days. LOVE IT!!

  11. Avatar Maria Jeantet says:

    Awesome article Mary! You're fantastic at what you do…good job and keep'on moving!


  12. Avatar facebooker says:

    it not wrong to use facebook for keeping in touch with friend, family and other , keeping track of them right? i think it better than wast my cellphone and get charge hella money

    some tother random fbfriend think i crazy and say i cant do this, so what social life for me was nothing before facebook and now is full of life because of fb,keep in touch new and old friends from wheever i meet them in life, know where hangouts, parties , events going on right! that how to use online network right?

  13. Avatar Daniel Carey says:

    Once again, you have scored the winning points. You're article tells your story but reflects so much of mine and so many others. You have managed to articulate what so many of us have experienced and enjoy. Thanks.

    To that, I have to add …

    I first met you on LinkedIn. We eventually both ended up on Facebook. Both are great avenues for meeting people, promoting business, and keeping in touch with friends. Where LI is more professional and geared toward building business and getting to the next great thing. I see FB as mostly social. It was through FB that my wife, Darla, and you got to meet. She would never use LI; but FB is her way to keep in touch with family and friends. Through FB we have connected at a different level than we ever could have on LI.

    FB does provide something that LI does not. I allows various businesses and organizations to market through less professional means. My church would never promote on LI; but on FB they have done exactly what you stated, set up a free URL …. My son has been able to promote his business and get great feedback from his clients and fellow drummers at .

    Again, Thanks for leading the way.

  14. Avatar Lana says:

    I think you are way ahead of your time. Like it Mary. Like it.

  15. Avatar jacki g. says:

    Wow! So glad to hear that Lee is still out and about, anchoring the social scene @ the Cedar Tree! He was a regular (as were we) @ Jane's Java Joint, that wonderful place that I still miss, along with Jane and the girls…in Palo Cedro! Must concur, your take on FB and social networking in general is spot on, thanks for an encouraging and timely article!

    • Avatar ReloMary says:

      We just got back from visiting Java Jane, Jacki!! 🙂 Glad you enjoyed the FB piece. And yes, Lee is still a Cedar Tree regular which is very cool.

  16. Avatar iulian says:

    Facebook Testing Face Detection in Photos

  17. Avatar Tina Dacquisto says:

    Nicely done, Mary!

  18. Avatar ReloMary says:

    I'll stop in here periodically to add links to FB happenings – it's so hard to keep up so this should help. It changes all the time so one post does not do it.


  19. Avatar ReloMary says:

    If you are admin on any pages, you know that you don't get alerted to comments. Well, that is about to change if you sign up for this. It looks very cool. I just signed up: